The Fearful Flyer’s Guide to Long Haul Flights

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fearful flyer's guide to long haul flights

Fearful Flyer’s Guide to Long Haul Flights

I’m scared to fly, but do anyway. I book flights lasting 7, 8, even 9 hours. This happens multiple times a year.

Say what?

Yup. Flying makes my stomach turn. Yet somehow I’m always suffering on a plane, sailing across an ocean, to somewhere far away. You’re probably wondering how I pull off this amazing feat, especially if you hate to fly too and haven’t booked your first trip.

No, I don’t own a magic wand that destroys my flying fears upon arriving at an airport. I wish.

Nor am I (that) crazy. Trust me. Maybe.

Nor do I sleep through the entire flight. Again, I wish. If you can sleep on long haul flights, especially in economy class, you need to count your blessings and share your secrets. Now.

Fortunately there are many guides about how to survive a long haul flight  that can help you with your next trip. And I’m here to add my voice with my own “fearful flyer’s guide to long haul flights.” Yay!

fearful flyer's guide to long haul flights

Okay, so why do I torture myself? You’ve already guessed the answer. I endure these “long haul voyages of doom,” because travel is the bread and butter of my life.

Guys, I’m not willing to let my flying fear stop me from experiencing incredible international destinations. Sticking to my own backyard isn’t gonna cut it for me. Not now, not ever. Damn, wanderlust.

Risks are a part of life. My anxiety hates this fact but it doesn’t make it any less true. My flying phobia follows me, like a dark rain cloud, but I still realize the chances of me dying in a blaze of fiery glory are minuscule.

At the end of the day, temporary discomfort is a fair trade-off if it means hot sunbathed mountains, cinnamon-smelling markets, laughter ringing in my ears, and pastel cities are waiting for me on the other side.

Nonetheless, the mere thought of taking a long haul flight, especially alone, makes me weak in the knees. And not in a pleasant way.

Trust me, I’m angsting about flying to Madrid right now.

So what’s a girl to do? Here is my “fearful flyer’s guide to long haul flights” to save the day! Hopefully my suggestions inspire you to print your boarding pass and wander overseas for your next upcoming adventure.

Full disclosure: Medication helps me fly. but I still rely on these tips to beat anticipatory anxiety at home and in the airport terminal. I won’t endorse or disparage medicine in this post because it’s a personal choice.

Moving on.

fearful flyer's guide to long haul flights

1. Go to flightaware for an exact flight time.

When you book your ticket, you can log onto the airline’s site and see a time, which estimates how many minutes you’re trapped alongside a bunch of strangers, some who may smell like bad perfume or body odor.

However, these times are inaccurate a lot. You could have a shorter flight than you bargained for! Awesome, huh?

Go to flightaware and plug in your flight number. You’ll see a list of all the previous flights and their corresponding journey times. Usually, the average time is lower than what’s written on the airline’s official website.

In my experience, this is especially true for European flights! There’s nothing like being told on American or United’s website that the time to reach London is roughly 7 hours, but in reality, the average flight time is only six hours and fifteen minutes. Knowing you’ll spend 45 minutes less on a plane helps. A lot.

fearful flyer's guide to long haul flights

2. Take control of your seat.

Do not let the airlines choose your seat. I repeat do not let the airlines choose your seat!

Seriously, there’s no reason to do that especially with the creation of the internet. If you don’t plan ahead of time, you’ll totally end up in the middle seat, in the last row, right next to the bathrooms. Don’t risk it.

Instead go to the carrier’s site and change your seats to suit your personal needs. For example, I always opt for an aisle seat, so I can walk around whenever I want without bugging my neighbors to move. I also aim for a seat located in a row over the plane’s wings, so turbulence is minimized. Sure, sometimes I gotta pay extra for the arrangements, but the peace of mind is worth every penny.

Book your seat ahead of time. Usually the airlines don’t screw up the reservation. Usually. No promises.

3. Bring your own entertainment.

While some airlines feature all three Lord of the Rings movies and every HBO series known to humankind, other planes have dated systems causing you to suffer through an 8 hour transatlantic flight with only Smurfs reruns to distract you. It happens.

Again, you need to come prepared.

Download your favorite movies onto your phone or tablet, and bring a portable charger in case your plane doesn’t have USB plugs. If a plane has lousy entertainment, I doubt they’ll have plugs. As a precaution, I use Tumi’s mobile power pack and it works beautifully for all my cheesy movie needs.

For me, watching a comforting film takes my mind off funny engine noises and turbulence. Personally, “Romeo + Juliet” and BBC’s 1995 “Pride and Prejudice” cure all air bumps. Don’t judge.

The sillier, the better. And I shouldn’t have to tell you, but avoid movies featuring plane crashes.

fearful flyer's guide to long haul flights

4. Dress in comfortable clothes.

I love me some fashion.

Whenever I visit my brother in New York City, I “accidentally” waste too much money in Saks Fifth Avenue and swanky boutiques in Soho. And no, I really shouldn’t overspend on Yves Saint Laurent beauty products, but my embarrassing lack of self-control is a different rant for a different day.

Here’s the actual point: Clothes are awesome and everyone wants to look beautiful, but you’re walking down a boarding bridge, not a catwalk. Sorry. You’re not Victoria Beckham or Kate Upton (neither am I). Opt for comfort! Slip on shoes, soft yoga pants, leggings, anything!

Furthermore, if you wear pajamas that don’t look like pajamas, who really cares? I know wearing, say fluffy pink pants and fuzzy socks with bunnies on them, would raise few eyebrows, but if you’re super comfy and relaxed, who cares what the other passengers think? It’s not like you’re seeing their faces again anytime soon.

Bring an eye mask and ear plugs too. Especially ear plugs if you hate the engine’s funky noises.

5. Nag the flight attendants.

Okay, don’t really “nag” them. Flight attendants work hard. And a lot of nonsense is thrown in their direction. As a teacher, who happens to put up with her own share of work-related stress, I sympathize with flight attendants facing aggressive customers. So you don’t wanna act bratty toward them and act like your flying fear is their problem. It isn’t. It’s yours. Harsh but true.

However, flight attendants have seen and heard it all, so if you’re dreading your trip, then speak up and let them know you’re anxious! If you’re polite about it, they’ll have a few reassuring words and will check in with you every-so often throughout the flight. Having a person on your side, especially when you’re flying alone, means the world on a long haul flight. I promise.

Suffering in silence never helps anyone.

fearful flyer's guide to long haul flights

6. Plan your first day of sightseeing.

Instead of focusing on the “now,” zero in on your nearby exciting future. Your treasure of a trip waits beyond those clusters of clouds. Be happy!

Bring your kindle or Lonely Planet book for the ride. Read about your destination’s museums, restaurants, city neighborhoods, and any other points of interest. Watching a video about your trip might not be a bad idea either.

Not only will your dazzling future occupy your mind, but you’ll have a solid plan for your first day and therefore can stay busy, possibly avoiding jetlag, once your feet are on the ground again.

7. Spurge for premium/plus economy.

This tip depends on your budget. My broke behind still can’t swing premium economy on Qantas or Air New Zealand.

However, if your bank account is happier than mine, then it might be worth spending the extra bucks to book a premium economy ticket.

On occasion, premium economy ticket-holders sit in a smaller cabin and receive more individualized attention from flight attendants. Being addressed by your name makes you feel human again, for sure. Also, having plushy seats that recline further may help you sleep or at least doze off, which makes the minutes slip away. These cabins are usually toward the front of the plane, and this location helps lessen the effects of turbulence.

As for economy plus, I’ve spent the money for extra leg room, and the space helps me feel less claustrophobic.

fearful flyer's guide to long haul flights

8. Remember: the flight time isn’t actually that long.

Are you facing an eight hour flight and now feel like your world is ending because it’s so horrible? Remind yourself that eight hours really isn’t a lot of time.

Think about it. There are twenty-four hours in a day. Eight hours isn’t even half that. For me, eight hours is roughly what I spend at work if you throw my boring commute on the Expressway into the mix.

Going to Australia and have a 15 hour flight taking off from LAX? You’re still crossing the Pacific Ocean in less than a day. Less than a day.

Here’s another way of looking at the situation: if the weekends, 48 hours long, feel short (ha ha) compared to the dumb work week, then why the hell can’t eight, ten, fifteen hours feel short too?

You can do it. Trick your mind.

I hope you enjoyed my fearful flyer’s guide to long haul flights. How about you? Are you scared to fly? What tips did I miss? How do you endure long haul flights?

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3 Responses to The Fearful Flyer’s Guide to Long Haul Flights

  1. Harmony, Momma To Go December 30, 2017 at 9:39 am #

    maybe take a sleeping pill ??? 🙂

  2. Matt S January 23, 2018 at 12:26 am #

    This is great advice. I’m flying back from Sydney in a week and dreading it, but it was worth it to come down here so I’ll manage the flight back! Keep up the good work!

  3. Kayleigh March 12, 2018 at 3:53 pm #

    Omg I love this post. It’s so simple and straight to the point, something my brain does the opposite of, which builds up my anxiety and causes me to overthink..and vice versa.I am going to read this over and over again like a mantra!

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