Valentine’s Day lurks on the horizon, wayfarers! Chocolate, flowers, gift lists, and overpriced dinners everywhere! At least my favorite color is pink (if you couldn’t tell from my blog’s layout) so I don’t mind that part so much.
Haha, in school, I hated this holiday so so so much. I thought it was too sappy, gooey, and ridiculous. And totally a way for lame companies to rake in a profit off smitten lovers. Besides I never had a significant other in middle school or high school, so Valentine’s Day did a great job making me feel like an ogre. Depressing, right?
Now, however, I’m secure enough in myself that I don’t mind Valentine’s Day. Sure, I may not love it, but I don’t scowl and wear my black eyeliner either. I’m cool.
I’ll be honest: I wanted to write a nifty themed gift list for travelers. Why not, right? But since Valentine’s Day was never my “thing,” I would have NO idea what awesome items to suggest to couples. So, instead, I’m gonna stick to something fun and lighthearted and dreadful: dating.
Dating as a traveler is interesting. You encounter a lot of different reactions ranging from “that’s so cool!” to “I’m not sure that’s safe” to “there’s no way work would let me take time off” to “pfft, my travels are even CRAZIER.”
Over all, I think travel transforms you into a hot date for many reasons. I’d rather date a traveler than anyone else. Let me convince you.
You have plenty of incredible stories to share.
As a traveler, you never run out of magnificent tales to weave and share. You will stun your date with all your amazing international encounters, and s/he will beg for a second chance to go out with you!
What kind stories? Maybe you’ll talk about that time you went paragliding in Slovenia. Or snorkeled in Iceland’s coldest waters in the dead of winter. And yeah, maybe that time you fell off your bike in the Aran Islands – which was not at all embarrassing or painful.
Lucky you, you won’t run out of cool adventures to discuss. Just give your date a chance to talk, too. No one likes a snob.
Your independence is addictive and reassuring.
As a solo traveler, you don’t need your hand held every five minutes nor will you text ten times after the date is over. No way. Desperation has never been your style. Instead you can hold your head high and board an international flight – even if the thought makes your legs weak with fear. So why would you act needy?
For a lot of people, such free-spirited behavior is super attractive and inspiring, and even addictive. In the United States, which seems to push the idea that romantic relationships are more important than friendships or family, your independence is a breath of fresh air. Go you!
You’re more daring than dinner and a movie.
Okay, I don’t object to a fine dinner. Lord knows there are enough mouth-watering restaurants around me to make my wallet weep in a corner. I’m not knocking dinner.
Still, as a traveler, you won’t say “no” to a more adventurous first date. Wanna go snowboarding? You’re there! Wanna check out a super cool festival in New York City or Asbury Park? You’re down for that too! Wanna take a sudden trip to California? Sure, just call work and off you go!
You break away from the norm – which is totally hot.
You don’t sweat the small stuff.
Your date is five minutes late? No big deal. You once had to wait three hours for your bus to arrive at hot and crowded station on the outskirts of an unfamiliar city. You can chill in this lovely whiskey bar for a little bit longer.
And if your date or you accidentally spills a drink? It’s more funny than dreadful. You can laugh at yourself easily.
Of course if you’re date is twenty minutes late, you’ll peace out and have your own fun someplace else. You won’t tolerate any disrespect either.
You will inspire him/her to achieve greatness.
Honestly, as a traveler, I want to encourage other people to break through their comfort zones and explore the world on their own terms. When I took my first trip to Scotland, I wasn’t a confident person, no way. I almost canceled my trip three separate times, and even debated turning around at the Newark Airport.
Travel is scary for a lot of people especially avid news readers. The news has a monopoly on frightening people to death – even me.
Maybe your date is super anxious and wants to travel abroad (maybe even solo!), and your inspiration causes him or her to finally book that ticket. Even if you two don’t work out, perhaps you’ll be the person to change his/her life. Or you could end up married. You never know!
If the date flops? Pssh, you still have you!
Crappy first, second, third, fourth, fifth dates happen to us all. We run out of things to say and the spark vanishes. Or maybe the other person was just a jerk. Not speaking from experience, of course.
Anyway. Let’s say your date falls flat on its face. Maybe your crush thinks you’re a huge show off with all your jetsetting ways. Or maybe your independence is far too intimidating for “normal people” (note the sarcasm quotes) to handle.
Whateeeever. Travel not only makes you a great catch, but you’re confident enough in yourself that if a prospect doesn’t work out, you won’t lose sleep over it. Instead you’ll plan your next getaway.
But you never know. Maybe you’ll get married and run into the sunset, reading a honey moon Paris guide, and winning at life.
Do you think travel transforms you into a hot date? What are your plans for Valentine’s Day? Do even like Valentine’s Day or do you think it’s lame? Share in the comments.